Communication to build relationships and provide holistic care
People with a life-limiting illness should have the opportunity to discuss their condition, their prognosis, recent changes and what lies ahead. Nurses can help them understand and retain information, adapt to the changes and progression of the life-limiting illness, prepare them for death, and support people who may be struggling with bereavement.
These discussions can be difficult. Nurses can help the person and their family start and continue these discussions and make decisions about care. The person and their family may wish to have separate conversations. Carers may want or need different or more information than the person themselves.
The following examples consider the needs of both.
Related Resources
- CareSearch Community – Why is communication important?
- palliAGED Evidence summary – Talking about end of life
- palliAGED Introduction Module for Aged Care – Talking about dying
Discussion might include:
- how the illness may progress and any expected changes
- how they are coping
- what the person’s wishes and priorities are
- the person planning to do certain things that are important to them whilst they are able
- changes to the person’s activity and level of function
- what care/help they may need now and in the future, and who is available to support them
- available services
- advance care planning – which is a process rather than a one-off event
- where they would like to be cared for
- where they would like to die which can change over time
- symptoms and signs to report urgently and to whom.
These discussions are not one-off but held over the course of the person’s illness. Discussion topics and decisions may change as needs change.
It can help to have an experienced nurse as a mentor who can model and teach skills of good communication.
Carers as part of the care team
Carers may need or want more information including practical information to help them as a member of the team providing care. It is important to discuss care with them and to acknowledge their role as a partner in providing care. However, they are not there as a health professional providing formal palliative care and this is also important to remember.
Responsive communication
The focus of discussions will also reflect the evolving nurse-patient relationship:
- initial period where the aim is to explore the person/family’s understanding of the illness, understand their coping and learning styles, and to approach advance care planning
- ongoing period with a focus on assessment and monitoring, clinical care, and education about the illness for people who want this
- terminal stage where the discussions might centre on support for transitioning to this end stage and saying goodbye.
Where care is provided by a number of nurses these relationships may differ. However, it is important to be prepared to step in at any time to have discussions about the person’s care or concerns. Provide what information you can and offer to find out more and come back, or ask if they would like you to find someone to speak with them.
These conversations are not easy. They may start spontaneously as you are providing care. Many people look to health professionals to start these discussions. Others may hesitantly try to start these discussions with a question or a comment providing a “hint” at their readiness or need to talk. Others may not be open to or be ready for these discussions. End-of-Life Essentials gives examples of these conversations in the module: Communication and decision-making.
If you are unable to respond immediately to the person’s concerns, fears, or need for information, it is important to acknowledge these needs and if possible find someone else to speak with the person now.
Planned discussions give people time to prepare themselves and can help limit misunderstandings.
Communication tips
Video
Last updated 12 June 2026